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And now what? Comparison and why it was killing me.
Comparison is a joy killer and we all do it. We look at how everyone else around us at our age is doing and create a hierarchy of good and bad. Are they still renting? Is their career flourishing? Are… Continue reading
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Self-Discovery: Finding meaning without your purpose
One of the most jarring things I’ve experienced while empty nesting is self-discovery. Being my big age, the expectation is I should know by now. Know where I want to live, what I want to do, and have goals I’m… Continue reading
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Loss: The devaluing of oneself. How rejection sensitive dysphoria ruined my life.
Being a woman in my mid 40’s comes with a lot of emotions. Emotions from empty nesting, hormones, relationships and the ever-present perimenopausal cycle cause me to question myself more than others. As a perceived “calm” person, I just assumed… Continue reading
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Play Time
Just in case you don’t know me, I only have two cardinal rules; Don’t play with my time or my people. That’s it. Play with both and we have a huge problem. Normally, I just go with the flow. It’s… Continue reading
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The Thrilla in Gasparilla
Every year, the city I live in has a colonization celebration. It’s full of pirates and swashbuckling fun. Lots of adults dressed in their favorite colorful bandanas and expensive boots ready to drink and pretend to be Captain Jack Sparrow… Continue reading
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Fireside Chat
It’s unusually cold outside right now in west central Florida and we’re outside of our element. In north Florida, it’s snowing which has shut down stretches of highway. This weather is proof the world is changing whether we choose to… Continue reading
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Impossible Fantasy
Last month, I fulfilled a fantasy I never even considered was a possibility. I participated in a group sexual activity. Sounds crazy right? It was. It was actually quite insane. Once I got home and allowed myself to decompress, my… Continue reading
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Project 2025
I took a break over the holidays because I needed to. 2024 was amazingly life changing and I needed to process it. This time last year I felt abandoned and confused. My future felt tied to others decisions because I… Continue reading
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I mean, if you like it…
The colloquialism goes, “If you like it, I love it.”, which typically means the opposite. An election normally has winners and losers. We’ve all lost. My heart was broken reading the results. This man y’all voted for is a real-life… Continue reading
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Distractionville
I’ve spent most of my life afraid of everything. Literally everything. It’s a learned behavior. There weren’t too many risks being taken by my family in general. My parents worked, went to church and came home. I was taught adventures… Continue reading
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